Regulus Trauma Counseling

TRAUMA

Life can drastically change as the result of one salient, distressing moment or event.

Traumatic events encompass a myriad of incidents, from a turbulent childhood, to rejection by loved ones within the LGBTQIA+ community, to a violent assault, to a car accident, to a cancer diagnosis—all connected with one universal thread: a single event, or series of events, large or small, which may evoke strong feelings of hopelessness or helplessness, make you believe that your life is in imminent danger of serious injury, or losing your life.

You are a survivor.

That moment(s) or event(s) does not define you, nor does it determine your future path. We believe that no one should have to suffer in silence. Everyone has the right to live free of negative thoughts and feelings. The one thing we hope for individuals who have experienced trauma to understand: you are never alone; there will always be a support system. We hope to augment to your support system, where through counseling, every person has the opportunity to explore within themselves in discovering their path in healing and growth.

PTSD AND TRAUMA

PTSD has most commonly been associated with the military, and other professions in which individuals are placed at risk of serious injury, or the loss of life. Individuals in these professions are consistently exposed to traumatic events, where they can often flash back to the war zone or scene of an accident, with visuals of their comrades killed or wounded, or the people they could not save. However, any person who has experienced traumatic events can also develop PTSD, coping with similar negative emotions.

PTSD is a mental health condition as a result of exposure to an event or series of events during which a person is exposed to stressors beyond their ability to process and manage their overwhelming feelings. Symptoms include flashbacks, nightmares, and severe anxiety, as well as uncontrollable thoughts about that event, with difficulty adjusting and coping. The difficulty can lead to self-medication (alcohol, drug use, or engaging in other risky behaviors) to ease the pain or escape, as well as self-isolation from friends and family, resulting in the development of addiction and the degradation of family and support systems, further deteriorating their overall health.

As the severely traumatic events are believed to have the greatest impact on long-term health, other incredibly stressful events can be just as traumatic and have similar adverse effects to overall health: a sudden death in the family, a stressful divorce, or caring for someone with a chronic, debilitating, or terminal illness.

COMMON TYPES OF TRAUMA

• Combat or duty-related
• Intimate partner (domestic violence)
• Early childhood emotional abuse or neglect
• Violent or sexual
• Natural disaster
• Medical
• Abuse (physical, emotional, childhood)
• Traumatic grief
• Terrorism (mass violence, acts of terrorism, community violence)

Individuals who have experienced PTSD or other trauma have demanding challenges. We believe it is crucial to provide healthy, constructive coping tools and strategies to individuals coping with PTSD. Together, we discover creative solutions to alleviate trauma symptoms, while enriching your life. We hope to embark on the healing journey with you, navigating through the stresses faced each day, as you travel your path towards rediscovery.

SECONDARY TRAUMA

December 14, 2012. Newtown, Connecticut. Sandy Hook Elementary School.

We may not remember the date. We may vaguely remember the name, “Newtown,” but “Sandy Hook” will forever be emblazoned in our minds as one of the most horrific acts of violence in our nation. 26 people: 20 children, ages 6-7, and six adults were gunned down in an environment we consider sacred and safe: an elementary school.

At approximately 9:30 AM, school announcements were read over the loudspeaker, as gun shots were heard around the school. At approximately 9:30 AM, the dispatchers at the police station were receiving the first emergency call from inside the school.

“Sandy Hook School. Caller is indicating she thinks someone is shooting in the building,” the dispatcher tells fire and medical personnel.

The first law enforcement officer arrived on the scene approximately two minutes and 41 seconds after the first police radio broadcast. Once law enforcement officers secured the building, they escorted the surviving children and school faculty out of the school to the nearby fire station. The fire station would serve as a community sanctuary for the parents and families whose children would never return home from school.

It was the First Responders to Sandy Hook—the dispatchers at the police station who first heard the call for help; the law enforcement officers to arrive the scene; and the firefighters who would serve the imperative duty of comforting grief-stricken parents—to witness and experience the unfathomable incident. Yet the shooting at the Sandy Hook Elementary School has resonated in many of us, despite the fact that we were not in the vicinity.

Secondary trauma (or vicarious trauma) is experienced as indirect exposure to trauma through hearing the firsthand account or narrative of the traumatic event.  Outside the Newtown community, this account was delivered through the various news media outlets. Similar to Sandy Hook, 9/11, and other traumatic events which have impacted the entire world, we are inundated with visuals and statistics of continual death and economic devastation, resulting from the novel coronavirus, or COVID-19. The suffering of millions, the death of hundreds of thousands, globally, is unfathomable. Numbing.

Yet tragedy can unite. We continually see news media coverage of the pandemic, yet we also see news coverage of community—a community generating hope not only for our neighbors, but also for ourselves. In a time where we can feel helpless and hopeless, we can take comfort in knowing that we, as a community, can come together. Social distancing does not mean we are alone, and we each can do something positive.

As a team, our clinicians understand what it means to unite in a common goal: guiding others to illuminate their path out of uncertainty and darkness. Darkness can only exist with light. Trauma resides in darkness— with healing comes light, radiating self-discovery of your capabilities, and empowerment to create a positive change in your life.

COMPASSION FATIGUE

Compassion fatigue is another form of secondary trauma, generally experienced among individuals who are exposed, each day, to the distress of others. Many of these people are within the profession of a second-line responder to tragedy, including humanitarian workers, social workers, people in the health care field (both physical and mental health), even attorneys and journalists. Compassion fatigue is also experienced among individuals who are caregivers to a family member.

INDIVIDUALS MOST AT-RISK FOR COMPASSION FATIGUE

• Psychotherapists and Mental Health Counselors
• Physicians and nurses
• Teachers and school counselors
• Hospice care workers
• Animal shelter workers
• Suicide hotline staff
• Emergency communications center dispatchers
• Social workers and child welfare workers
• Judges
• Journalists

Compassion fatigue is generally experienced when people place the needs of others before their own. In order to care for others, you must care for yourself. We emphasize self-care as an essential step on your road to recovery and re-energizing.

CHILDHOOD TRAUMA

Childhood trauma is described as severe adverse childhood experiences, which can manifest into adulthood, including how you relate to others. Our environment and primary caregivers directly shape how we view the world, how we view ourselves, and ultimately, our personalities. 

What you learned in childhood as your coping mechanism for survival, become mechanisms to protect yourself in adulthood. Survivors of childhood trauma may find themselves with the inability to see their value; feeling invisible; placing others at a distance. 

Perhaps we try to please others; or we are perfectionists; or we feel others love us for what we do, not for who we are—we learn love is conditional. Most of all, for those of us who were neglected, we never feel heard, which results in the inability to regulate our emotions. We learned that we cannot rely on others—it becomes difficult to trust and let our guard down, because it is too painful if they leave. 

As adults, we may hold back, being agreeable to keep the peace—traits of self-betrayal. This is a trauma response, which manifests into anger, resentment, and burn out. People pleasing, or “fawning,” is also a trauma response, where we please someone to avoid conflict to re-establish a sense of safety.  Perhaps we keep ourselves busy. This is another trauma response, a fear-based distraction, as if we slow down, we are forced to acknowledge and actually feel. Perhaps when we do slow down, we get bored. That “boredom” is our brain’s way of finding ourselves in withdrawal from the rush of chaos and unhealthy dopamine release we have become accustomed. A common misconception is that these traits are a part of our personality. They aren’t— it is who we had to be to survive. We have lived in survival mode for so long, we aren’t able to be our authentic selves. 

We know you felt invisible, or you didn’t matter, that you did not get what you needed and felt alone. 

We see you. We hear you. We value you—for you.  

PTSD, TRAUMA, AND DEPRESSION

Depression can often occur after experiencing trauma. A national survey evidenced depression was nearly three to five times more likely in individuals who have experienced PTSD, than individuals who did not have PTSD. Difficulty in coping with the painful experience often leads to depression, illustrated in the military Veterans returning home from the combat zone. The Veterans may retain painful memories and feelings of guilt or regret about their experiences during combat; they may have been injured, or lost friends. Survivors of violence or abuse may no longer have the capability in trusting others. Survivors of natural disasters may have lost loved ones, their home, or may have been injured. These experiences can lead to both depression and PTSD, where symptoms of depression and PTSD may overlap, or possibly, the individual may experience depression and PTSD concurrently.

If you think you may hurt yourself, or attempt suicide, call 911 or your local emergency room number immediately. Another option is to call the National Suicide Prevention Line: 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255); to reach the Veterans Crisis Line, call the same number, and press “1.”

If you have a loved one who is in danger of suicide, or has made a suicide attempt, ensure they are not alone. Call 911 or your local emergency room number immediately. If you believe it is safe to do so, take the person to the nearest emergency room.

It is important for you to know that you do not need to suffer in silence, or alone. Uncontrollable circumstances have caused the trauma, but you have power over the circumstances you can control. Our clinicians will help illuminate the path out of the darkness associated with trauma and depression. Together, we will navigate the path towards rediscovery and empowerment.